Wrong Relationships

Why is it that we find ourselves caught up in the same situations all the time?



Why is it that we always seem to either attract or be attracted to the same type of person all the time?


Why is it that no matter how much we say that we won't get involved in that type of relationship or that kind of person ever again that we always find ourselves right back in that same situation with that same person…or even in a worst state than we were in, in the first place?


Could it be something psychological?


Maybe something connected to our childhood; something we saw depicted in the early stages of our lives that causes us to have these particular ideas about what a relationship is or how a relationship is supposed to be?


Or maybe we find ourselves in these situations because we are looking for what we may have missed such as that "man figure" or "father figure" in our lives?


So therefore we then go out looking for what we want to be the exact opposite of that "father figure" that we didn't have in our lives, yet we end up attracting the very same thing we were running away from.


Or could it be that maybe it was something we heard or were told by someone that we considered to be a role-model or mentor or even someone we looked to for advice.


You know that one person that meant the world to you; whose opinion out-weighed everyone else's. Yes that person; who you felt knew everything there was to know or who you wanted to "be just like".


That person's examples, decisions, they way they lived their daily life...impacted you!


Could it be that we are just simply being ignorant to the fact that hey, this thing is not healthy for us, that it can lead us down a path of destruction, and can destroy not only our lives but the lives of others around us and yet we seem to turn a blind eye to it?


The sad thing is the end result of it is that we find ourselves in these horrible situations that turn out to be a long, emotionally, unhealthy and psychologically draining repetitive cycle in our lives that can be avoided.


By:- Zinnia A. Williams